• Live On Your Own Terms: A Memoir Excerpt

    Winter is one of my favorite seasons, and I really want to like Christmas, but it’s complicated by the fact that my mother died during this season five years ago. Even before she fell ill with terminal cervical cancer, the holidays have always been challenging, and I’ve never been particularly good at knowing how to… Continue Reading

  • Rejection as a Blessing

    Until recently, my relationship to rejection has always been extreme. The first time I received a long, thoughtful rejection letter from an agent, I stopped writing anything creative for years. I have always been good at giving over the power of affirmation to other people, which is certainly not the kind of thing you want… Continue Reading

  • On Gloria Naylor and The Beautiful Darkness

    When I was 16 or 17, I sometimes had the great privilege of riding with some of my high school classmates to author lectures at SUNY Albany. One of my favorite hobbies back then was attending readings, book signings and lectures. It was one thing to be obsessed with reading and writing, to escape in… Continue Reading

  • Another Season

    I love the hibernation of winter and the renewal of spring. The only thing I really enjoy about summer is that fall is what follows – a season of harvest and brilliant color. So it seems fitting to consider that I’m moving into another season in my life that seems parallel to the promises of… Continue Reading

  • Self-care in a time of racial terror

    A friend and I were discussing the heroics of Bree Newsome this weekend when I ran out of things to say. Driving in the rain, attending to the life chores that are demanded of us, I was at a loss for how to describe the light that filled me when I saw the video of her climbing that… Continue Reading

  • Learning to be Big

    I left work completely devastated and in a lot of emotional pain. I was in a season of severe self-doubt, mired in worry. This was about business, about a professional transition, but it was more than that. I was feeling like I was doing something and I had done something that is all too familiar… Continue Reading

  • My Writing Process: Forget what you hear about writing

    Nicole D. Collier, one of my favorite members of my virtual writing tribe, asked me to participate in the blog tour. Since I love to read and write about writing (in lieu, sometimes, of actually writing) and I’ve noted that some other writers I admire and respect, including Tananarive Due, Tayari Jones and Daniel Jose… Continue Reading

  • Poem: For writers

    Do not wait for validation the language at war with currency. Feast instead on self possession & poems: The stories of the ones before us, The dreams of our descendants. Narratives that remind our hearts how to soar.   No one is coming to proclaim your talent rough or refined. You are your only true… Continue Reading